(Lisa Driver is a certified Life Coach, Medium, Angel Therapist, Advanced Angel Tarot/Oracle card reader, Reiki Practitioner, and award-winning author of Opening Up and Leap, published by DriverWorks Ink.)
Aaah spring! Welcome to a time of renewal, rebirth, and a reminder that life goes on in cycles, creating beauty all around us if we take the time to notice it.
Desiring a life of more beauty, appreciation, and presence, I made the choice at the beginning of this month to take some time off from coaching and teaching. In a series of Divinely-guided, serendipitous events, I found myself deciding that I needed a break.
Upon reflection, I realized I haven’t taken a breather in a long time. It is in my nature to work, and to work hard. I am driven, motivated, and love to help others, so taking time off has been a difficult transition. But I am loving it (most days). With my daughter almost eight months old, she is beginning to learn new things everyday, and is on the verge of crawling and turning my world (and living room) upside down.
To watch her sense of wonder as she tries a new food, feels a new texture, or makes a new sound (her latest thing is clapping), fills me with pride, peace, and a deep sense of healing love that I need. Some days I find it difficult to see the value I add as “just” a mom, and some days I wish I could be present and engaged with my daughter and husband AND help run Above 540’s successful online business. Deep down, I know that will come, and I know my lesson right now is to understand just how important it is that I appreciate these simple moments with my family. I need to recharge, to reset, and to take care of myself.
In the last two years, my entire life has transformed and I am still reeling from all of it. Change shakes us on a deep level, and tests our sense of security, confidence, and self-awareness.
In my second book “Leap!”, I write a lot about that self-awareness, and the importance of really enjoying this present moment. When we utilize the power of now and of our own choices in this instant, we begin to create a happier, more abundant, bliss-filled future, and find it easier to navigate the challenges of our world. Yet it’s difficult to look within and ask yourself: Which choice should I make? What will make me happy? How can I best serve others and still love my life?
Personally, I was finding the answers to those questions often coming from the expectations of others, or from some zombie-type version of Lisa, who was just trying to stay above water amidst some pretty tough challenges. My heart was asking for more, and I knew I needed some time to listen to it and really honour that inner desire.
And just like that, the Divine helped everything fall into place so I can reflect, review, and recommit to me.
I have seen similar situations with many of my clients over the years, and it’s part of the reason I wrote “Opening Up” and “Leap!” – to teach people this simple, yet important lesson: we need to stop doing everything for everyone else, and start putting our own dreams first. Who are we serving by working at a job we hate? By staying in a relationship or friendship that drains us? By doing everything for our kids, our colleagues, our friends, our family, and making excuses as to why we aren’t deserving?
How is that inspiring anyone? Even those we are helping (or humouring) are only getting a small percentage of the love and inspiration we could offer if we were really shining! Often, they are getting a resentful, exhausted, drained, tired version of us that is just putting one foot in front of the other, hoping for a change but not sure if/when/how that’s even possible.
So I beg of you, if you can relate, take some time for yourself. Take a breath right now —- I’ll wait —- and feel the power in your body and mind. Now think of one thing – ONE THING – you can do this week that would feed your soul and make you a happier, shinier version of yourself. What is it? Write it down, schedule it in, and notice how even making that choice and thinking about something that makes you happy, makes you happier and lighter in the “now”! (Doesn’t it?)
We far too often get caught up in the mundane rut of our routines, or in the pain or “failure” of the past, and allow it to limit us as we move forward. Which is why taking time for yourself (even 5 minutes to breathe) can make a big difference.
As I continue to rest and balance out my mind, body, and spirit, I am excited for everything that will unfold. Every day, I remind myself to breathe, tune in, and listen to what my soul is asking of me. That time I carve out reminds me that today is NEW, full of potential, and has a unique story to tell. This day has never happened before and I have a choice to make it great … or not.
I know from recent experience just how quickly things can change, so I do my best to wake up each day, ready and willing to make the most of this gift we’ve all been given.
We all need to reset sometimes, especially when life throws us curve-balls. If you’ve been going through the motions lately or feeling a bit “blah”, consider this your Divine sign to make a choice and change something. You’ve got the power!
I believe in you.
Sending you love, strength, and renewed conviction to do whatever it is you dream of,
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